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New Hampshire is known as The Granite State.  Its motto – found on car license plates – is “Live Free or Die.”

My wife and I chose to “live free” while we were there, and we didn’t regret a single moment.

Here are five more reasons why I love New Hampshire:

Number 5: I love the beauty of the state.  The most famous part of New Hampshire is the White Mountains, and we had the privilege of driving through them one autumn day.  The White Mountains do not disappoint!

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We wanted to drive up Mount Washington, but it was closed.  Then we wanted to take a train ride up the mountain, but it cost $62 a person, so we passed … but we did manage to snap a photo of a lost tourist …

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Number 4: I loved driving the back roads, even though I consistently got lost.  One day, Interstate 93 backed up on my way to church, and I decided to take the nearest exit and head south, figuring I’d hit the church eventually.  While I made virtually no progress and needed assistance to find my way, I loved the remoteness of so many of the houses and the feel of the woods.

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Number 3: I loved learning about New Hampshire culture.  For example:

*The Boston Red Sox, New England Patriots, and Boston Celtics are not my favorite teams … especially the Celtics … but it was fascinating hearing how the teams were covered and listening to New Englanders rhapsodize about their favorite players.

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*The state does not have any sales tax or income tax.  This meant that when we went to Walmart, everything we purchased was tax-free!  Gotta love that … especially if you’re from California, where the sales tax rate is now 7.75% and climbing.

*All kinds of wild animals roam free, including turkeys which loved to hang around the church.

Number 2: I loved the weather … so much.  While hot weather drains me, colder weather exhilirates me.  During our last few weeks in New Hampshire, the temperature was in the 40s and 30s, occasionally dipping down into the 20s … and I couldn’t get enough of it … especially when I saw that the temperature was in the 90s and 100s back home.

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Some friends told me that the snow gets old real fast, and I believe them.  This is what the road looked like driving back to Manchester from Stowe, Vermont, one November day:

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But I still loved the weather in New Hampshire!

Number 1: I loved the people of Crossroads Church in Pelham.  They were so genuine … and generous … and classy … and kind to my wife and me.

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I was invited to become a traditional interim pastor for the church while they sought a candidate to become senior pastor.  The first night that I preached, the church had a reception for us after the service, including a large gift basket filled with goodies.  People talked to us long into the night until I was advised to return to Manchester because a storm was coming.

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My time there was short-lived because the church selected a candidate during my third week there, but Kim and I were the recipients of so much love that it was easy to love the people in return.

*We were given tickets to a Red Sox-Yankees game and a Celtics-76ers game.

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*We were invited to attend a Chris Tomlin concert in Lowell, Massachusetts with people from the church.

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*We were invited to lunches … and dinners … and after-church get-togethers … and even a meal on Thanksgiving.

*And Kim went on several excursions with women from the church, including this trip to Gloucester, Massachusetts:

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Kim and I both agree: we spent three of the best months of our lives in New Hampshire.

So thank you, people of Crossroads Church, for making it all possible.

We will never, ever forget you and your fascinating state!

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My wife and I recently returned from a temporary job assignment in New Hampshire.

I didn’t know much about the state when I accepted the assignment.  I’d only been to New Hampshire once in my life, and that was to stop in Manchester for lunch many years ago on a trip with my son.

It’s hard to gauge a state when you’ve only spent a few hours there.  But if you’ve lived there a few months, you at least know it better than the average tourist would.

After living in New Hampshire, I must say … I love New Hampshire!

In fact, let me share with you ten things I loved about New Hampshire … and New England as well:

Number 10: I loved the relaxed feel.  New Hampshire has three main cities: Concord, Manchester, and Nashua.  I visited all of them, but never found the traffic to be oppressive … like it is here in Southern California … except for a shopping trip to Costco one Saturday in Nashua.

Here’s a photo of downtown Portsmouth … right on the border before entering Maine …

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Number 9: I loved Dunkin’ Donuts.  One night, my wife and I were lost in Connecticut, and I looked at the map and saw I would have to drive toward New Haven on a single lane highway.  After many miles of traveling in the dark, my wife and I wanted something warm to drink, so I was hoping we’d come to a Dunkin’ Donuts.  When we saw light ahead, I told my wife, “I’ll bet there’s a Dunkin’ Donuts there” … and I was right.

In New England, where there’s light, there’s Dunkin’ Donuts.

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Number 8: I loved being surrounded by trees.  There were two Target stores in our area, and whenever we’d drive to either one, I’d get out of the car, turn around … and see trees everywhere!  For someone who tends toward depression due to the brownness of the desert, the perpetual green of New Hampshire continually lifted my spirits.

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Number 7: I loved visiting graveyards.  Before you conclude that I’m morbid and twisted, please understand that one of my small hobbies is visiting the graves of famous people.  In California, you can visit the graves of Richard Nixon and Ronald Reagan … but you have to pay to enter their presidential libraries.  But in New England, you can visit the graves of former presidents for free … and there’s nobody around when you do.

Grave of Franklin Pierce, 14th President of the US, in Concord, NH

Grave of Franklin Pierce, 14th President of the US, in Concord, NH

Here’s the famous Sleepy Hollow Cemetery in Concord, Massachusetts:

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And here’s Mount Auburn in Cambridge, Massachusetts … the first landscaped cemetery in the United States … which dates all the way back to 1831:

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Number 6: I loved the fall foliage.  We arrived in Manchester in early September, so we were privileged to watch the trees turn colors over the next few weeks.  Driving to and from church – 27 miles each way – was fun because of all the colors we’d see along the roads.

Here are some trees in upstate New Hampshire:

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I’ll finish this Top Ten List next time.  Watch for it!

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My wife and I drove 3,500 miles across America last week – from New Hampshire to Southern California – and the states we traveled through left some distinct impressions upon me.

We drove through all or parts of New Hampshire, Massachusetts, Connecticut, New York, Pennsylvania, West Virginia, Ohio, Kentucky, Indiana, Illinois, Missouri, Oklahoma, Texas, New Mexico, Arizona, and California.

We were blessed to have good weather most of the way … an anomaly for the first part of December!

Here are some random thoughts on our trip:

*Best roads: New Hampshire (good road surfaces, wide lines, often light traffic)

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*Worst roads: Oklahoma (especially in Oklahoma City, where the lines on the interstate disappear unexpectedly)

*Best interstate: I-40 in New Mexico

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*Worst interstate: I-95 in Connecticut … hands down (I almost had to be committed)

*Best large city for driving: Cincinnati (has a large ring around the city)

*Worst city for driving: Hartford, CT (like riding on Space Mountain at times)

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*Best road stops: Missouri (gas stations, stores, and places to eat everywhere)

*Worst road stops: Oklahoma (virtually nothing from Tulsa to Oklahoma City, a total of 106 miles … but there is this exit)

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*Best tourist spot: Gettysburg, PA (visiting the battlefields by car is free and totally absorbing)

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*Worst tourist spot: Ohio (there is nothing to see but farmland from West Virginia to Cincinnati)

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*Best driving: from Cincinnati to St. Louis (great roads, little traffic)

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*Scariest driving: following Highway 30 west from Chambersburg, PA toward Pittsburgh … went through four mountain passes in the Allegheny Mountains in total darkness … large trucks were advised not to take that route

A few other thoughts:

*Las Vegas award: Amarillo, Texas (lit up like a Christmas tree at night with steakhouses everywhere)

*Creepy award: Gallup, New Mexico (felt so uneasy there that after considering three places to eat, we left and ate in Arizona instead)

*Grand Prix award: Pittsburgh, PA (I wanted to stop and see the Pirates’ ballpark … would have died just trying to get off the freeway)

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*Maybe I could live there award: Cincinnati, OH (where my cousin and her family lives); Springfield, MO (30 miles from Branson)

*Waste of space award: Oklahoma (No sites, no facilities, no scenery … just Oral Roberts University in Tulsa)

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*Uh oh award: realizing our hotel reservation was in Breezewood, PA … just after we got on the Pennsylvania Turnpike (16 miles to the next town, then 16 miles back … and no way of turning around)

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*Best motel award: Days Inn in Tucumcari, NM (spacious, clean, well-equipped room)

*If I had one wish while driving: that I wouldn’t have to deal with any 16-wheelers!

*Best music along the route: Johnny Cash’s American Recordings albums

*Favorite place to eat: Cracker Barrel in Sullivan, MO (or anywhere else, for that matter)

*Coolest tunnel: through the Allegheny Mountains in Pennsylvania

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*Best view: from the Gateway Arch in St. Louis, MO

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Most moving sight: visiting the Soldiers’ National Cemetery in Gettysburg, PA, at dusk … and stumbling upon the spot where Lincoln delivered his Gettysburg Address

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There were a lot of sights I wanted to see but didn’t … like the Basketball Hall of Fame in Springfield, MA, and the Rock’n’Roll Hall of Fame in Cleveland … but I’m grateful that we were able to take the trip … and that our 1998 Honda Accord did great …. loaded with stuff … and with more than 250,000 miles on it.

Four days after returning home, it still feels like I’m on the road … and I can sing with Johnny Cash:

I’ve been everywhere, man

I’ve been everywhere, man

Across the deserts bare, man

I’ve breathed the mountain air, man

Of travel I’ve had my share, man

I’ve been everywhere

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Remember the movie classic Miracle on 34th Street?My wife and I tried to replicate those Christmasy feelings at a recent visit to Macy’s Department Store … home of the original Miracle.

Macy’s is the largest department store in the world and is located on 34th Street … between Sixth and Seventh Avenues … in New York City.

The two of us took the store’s old escalators to each floor … getting out quickly, looking around, and then ascending higher … before finally stopping at the eighth floor.

When we got there, we happened upon a poster for the original movie:

Not only that, but we couldn’t help noticing a prominent announcement:

November 23 is today … the day I’m posting this article.

However, as it turns out, Santa and his elves evidently require dry runs, because we were informed that if we wanted to, we could visit Santa right then and there!

We’ve just heard the news: we can visit Santa!

So off we went … through a maze of creatures from the North Pole!

The anticipation was building!

We saw singing snowmen …

Was the choir singing about Frosty?

… and penguin toboggan runs …

Looks like fun!

… and little towns decorated for Christmas …

Silver bells … it’s Christmastime in the city …

… and North Pole-like atmospherics …

Official, Santa-authorized train tracks

… and dancing bears …

Joyful about the coming of Christmas

… and thousands of colored Christmas lights …

The proverbial dear in the headlights

… and even an unexpected visit from an elf!

Where’s the real ELF?

In fact, the whole experience had religious overtones, because we were told, in bright red letters, just to …

Macy’s Christmas theme this year

And then, the Moment of Moments was upon us.  After the crew in front of us left, we could actually have a minute of the Great Man’s time!

Wowie Kazowie! It’s Santa himself!

My wife and I both sat down … her on Santa’s left hand, me on his right.

Santa asked my wife what she wanted for Christmas, and she replied, “A job.”

He asked me the same question … and I gave the same answer.

Santa had a lot of integrity, because he told us both candidly that he could not fulfil our requests.

Then we were asked to smile, and all three of us did … but I can’t post that photo, because the lowest price for that picture was $19.99.

As we made our way to the picture-buying counter, I glanced to my left … and noticed that some people were leaving their encounter with another Santa.

I realize that for many people all over the globe, Santa is the symbol for Christmas … especially to children … so I promise not to bash him unmercifully.

But it struck me that night that we were being sold a bill of goods.

Some quick thoughts:

While there are many Santas … even at Macy’s … there is only one God.

While Santa is completely human … and thus confined to one place at one time … God is spirit … and is everywhere at once.

While Santa pops out around Thanksgiving … and then mysteriously disappears after December 25 … God is available to us every day of the year.

While Santa can only fulfil material requests … for things like dolls, balls, and iPods … God can fulfil any request … for healing … or salvation … or jobs.

While Santa only grants visitors a moment of his time … God lets us linger in His presence as long as we want.

While Santa increasingly offers his services for cash … God’s services remain free of charge.

While children like to think that Santa can do almost anything … make toys at a rapid rate … read our thoughts and motives … fly through the air in a sleigh … descend and ascend through narrow chimneys … visit every child in the world in one night … and stay perpetually ancient and fat … adults know that Santa has his limits.

But God has no limits.  He is omnipotent, omniscient, and omnipresent.

With God, there can be a miracle in every heart … in every home … and on every street … all year long.

And the real miracle came not in the form of a jolly old man in a red suit, but in the form of a child born in Bethlehem.

Let’s make that news the focus of our celebration this Christmas season!

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I had a totally unique experience yesterday.

About 25 college students – who were taking a world religions class – visited the church I’ve been serving as an interim pastor.

The students drove themselves from the school to the church.  I shook hands with each one and introduced myself to them.

They all came upstairs and entered the worship center and sat down.

Their professor stood up and briefly oriented the class to the worship center, noting that the church:

*didn’t have stained-glass windows.

*didn’t have pews.

*had a pulpit in the middle of the stage.

*had a baptistry.  (Some students quickly walked up to it and looked inside … nothing.)

The professor then turned the class over to me, and for the next hour, I answered as many questions as I could.

What do secular college students want to know about an evangelical Protestant church?

They wanted to know:

*why there are so many different Protestant denominations.

*who is baptized and how a baptism is performed.

*whether Protestant ministers are allowed to marry.

*the role of women in a Protestant church.

*how many sacraments Protestants have.

*what the definition of “Protestant” is.

*what kind of music Protestants have in their services.

*what kind of sermons a pastor gives.

*whether or not we pressed our kids to attend church.

*whether pastors are paid or not.

*who owns the property and how it’s paid for.

*how pastors are hired.  (Are they sent by a denomination or selected by a local church?)

There were no questions about:

*how a person gets saved.

*social issues like abortion or gay marriage.

*theological issues like the deity of Christ or His resurrection or the afterlife.

*the Bible itself.

*the role of Baptists during the Crusades.

The group was well-behaved, attentive, and inquisitive.

Nobody seemed hostile.

One kid on the front row had a Catholic background, and he asked me questions rapid-fire.  I couldn’t tell if he sincerely wanted to hear my answers or if he wanted me to know how much he knew about Catholics.

This was a great experience for me.  It enabled me to hear how college students view Protestant churches.

And it also showed me how little the students really know about what goes on inside the four walls of a Protestant church.

One young woman in the front row referenced a Christian rock group and helped some of the students understand what happens during a typical worship service.  She became a valued ally 2/3 of the way through our time together.

It’s good for a pastor or an evangelist to visit a college class.  It’s far better for the class to visit local houses of worship.  (If a picture is worth a thousand words, just one visit to a house of worship must be the equivalent of reading 100 pages about that same religious group in a book.)

Maybe a local church could identify colleges within driving distance of their campus and invite professors (especially those who teach world religions) to visit the church campus with their students and ask questions of the pastor and staff.

What do you think?

 

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Grrrrr.

I am sick of this election season, sick of the political process, and most of all, sick of politicians.

All of them … even the ones I might vote for.

The political season is way too long.  (How about if it starts in June before the November election?)

There’s too much dirty money involved.

And the electoral college is, in my judgment, a joke.  (Reason: the presidential candidates only visit certain select states, never setting foot in North Dakota or Utah or Alaska … while visiting California and Illinois and New York to hold fundraisers so they can spend more cash in a small percentage of battleground states.  Living in California, my vote never counts anymore … but with a national, winner-take-all race, every vote would count … and national candidates would be forced to visit more of this great land than they do now.)

Let me briefly tell you why I’m angrier than ever about politics in 2012:

First, candidates use moral terms like “right” and “wrong” and “good” and “bad” in their speaking and ads.

Of course, they are right and good … and their opponents are wrong and bad.

Give me a break.

If a politician has an economic plan, for example, how do we know it’s right or good?

And how do we know his opponent’s plan is wrong or bad?

Maybe the opposite is actually true.

Can we declare a moratorium on using words describing moral judgments for subjective processes?

It’s like saying, “If the coach goes for a field goal in this situation, it’s wrong.”

No, it’s not … but to state that there is only one position when there are other options is itself wrong.

Second, candidates misrepresent their opponent’s positions.

My wife and I watched all three presidential debates … although the third one was largely preempted in our household by a baseball game.

Every minute or two, I spoke to the TV and said, like a broken record:

“That’s not true … that’s not true … that’s not true.”

It’s one thing to go out on the stump and lie about your opponent’s position … but to do it on national television right in front of him?

What kind of sick, twisted people do we have running for office?

Maybe we should give politicians personality tests and throw out everybody who has narcissistic, anti-social (sociopathy), and paranoid personality disorders.

Of course, that might narrow the field down to … zero.

I agree with the pundit who said that every time a candidate lies, a bell should go off in the background.

Or maybe at the end of a debate, fact checkers could say, “The incumbent misstated facts 37 times, while the challenger misstated facts 24 times … and we’re posting our results on such-and-such a website.”

We have to do something to stop this blatant misrepresentation of another person’s positions.

Third, they claim to speak for us … and for me.

The phrase I detest most starts with a politician claiming to speak for “the American people.”

“The American people don’t want to go down that road.”

But maybe I do.

“The American people know my opponent’s plan won’t work.”

But maybe it’s better than your plan.

Whenever a politician says, “The American people …” the next thing he says will be a lie.

Why?  Because the phrase implies that everybody agrees with the politician … but not all of us do.

It would be more accurate to say, “The majority of the American people want this” … but accuracy and political-speak are oxymorons … with the emphasis on morons.

Please, stop telling me that I am supposed to believe what you want me to believe.  When you do that, you’re manipulating, not motivating.

And I refuse to be manipulated.

Fourth, most politicians treat Americans like children rather than adults.

If a political candidate shot his opponent on national television, the shooter’s spinmeisters would quickly appear to say:

“The gun wasn’t loaded.”

“The bullets from that kind of gun won’t kill a person.”

“He’s just faking … he’s not really dead.”

“71% of the American people agreed with what just happened.”

“This won’t hurt our guy in the polls.”

This is why I like Frank Luntz’ focus groups so much.  Rather than hearing what a politician’s supporters think after a debate, I’d rather they hear what we think instead.

And the commercials … with the spooky voice-overs … the distorted photos of one’s opponent … the implication that the opponent is 100% evil … the leaps in logic … and testimonials from people you don’t know or care to know … insult our intelligence.

How stupid do they think we are?

Finally, crowds applaud nearly everything their candidate says.

If I can, I’d like to attend two political rallies that will take place near my apartment in the next few days before the election.

President Obama will be speaking in Concord, New Hampshire on Sunday … just a 15-minute drive from our place.

Mitt Romney will be holding a rally in downtown Manchester on Monday night … less than 10 minutes from our place.

If I attended one or both rallies, I might hear something like this:

“My plan will produce 234 million new jobs over the next 800 years!”

And people would mindlessly cheer.

“My opponent’s plan will send our country into a massive depression that will result in a hostile takeover of our country by an alliance of Greenland and Iceland.”

And people would still cheer.

Can’t people think?  Do they just feel?

It’s like those teenage girls who hear a song and instantly start dancing to it … even though the lyrics promote all manner of evil.

If only all Americans started listening to the lyrics of their politician’s speeches instead of the tunes …

This is just a sampling of the anger I’ve been feeling since for many months.

Feel free to join in … without naming names.

What has made you angry this political season?

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Today is an important day in my life.

I uploaded my book manuscript today to the publisher.

Every year, I remember the birthdates of family and friends.

Every year, I remember the anniversary of my father’s death.

And from now until the day I die, I will remember October 24, 2009.

Because on that day, my life and ministry … and the life and ministry of my wife … changed forever.

And that’s what my book is all about.

I’ve spent more than 30 months working on my book.  Over the past month, I’ve been getting up most mornings around 5 am to finish it.

I’ve told friends and family that “I’m just about done” so many times that they’ve stopped taking me seriously.

When I write articles for this blog … and I’ve written 230 of them so far … I can go back and change some wording any time I want.

But when you write a book, and have it published, it’s permanent.  You get an ISBN number.  It goes to the Library of Congress.

Worst of all for a perfectionist, you can’t change the text after it’s published.

But I’m getting sick of it.  It’s become an unwelcome intruder into my brain and my marriage … and my sleep patterns.

Besides, I can’t write another book until I get this one out of my life.  (I’m writing a simple e-book next time.)

Here’s what I wrote as a summary of the book for the back cover:

Conflict in churches has reached epidemic levels.  With 1,500 pastors leaving the ministry every month – many being forced to leave – Jesus’ church is increasingly losing trained, impactful leaders.  These conflicts damage pastors, their families, and congregations alike.  While many Christian leaders are aware of this issue, most have chosen to maintain silence rather than combat this problem.  Church Coup is the firsthand account of a pastor who experienced a devastating conflict and who exposes why such tragedies occur while suggesting biblical, concrete solutions for their resolution.

The book should be out before Christmas, if not sooner.  I’ll let you know when I have a publishing date.

Please pray for the book’s success.  I already know it’s not going to be a million-seller … after all, there isn’t any murder or sex in it … and the average Christian book sells less than a hundred copies.

So I already expect to visit a Christian bookstore someday and see a remainder mark on the book while it’s baking in the sun on the discount table outside.  (I’ll never get a job in marketing.)

But before that happens, I pray it does some good.

Three years ago, my wife and I experienced confusion, anger, and shame.

Today, we experience clarity, calm, and redemption.

And redemption is a beautiful word.

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I’ve been reading an 8-year-old book on pastoral transitions called The Elephant in the Boardroom: Speaking the Unspoken About Pastoral Transitions by Carolyn Weese and J. Russell Crabtree.

The book’s first chapter lays out the principles Jesus used in ministry transition.

John the Baptist was Jesus’ predecessor, the apostles His successors.

One passage in this chapter really stood out for me:

“Jesus was not afraid to talk about His predecessor in public.  Yet many church members experience an eerie silence on the part of their new pastor regarding the work of his or her predecessor.  It would be refreshing and liberating for many members to hear their pastor speak, in positive terms, the name of the pastor who went before and was referred to as an instrument in God’s plan for building that church.”

This problem is so pervasive that some pastors won’t even allow churchgoers to talk about a previous pastor in their presence:

“Members need leaders to listen to them talk about their affection for their predecessor.  This enables them to integrate their past and present experiences rather than compartmentalize them.  If the leader is unwilling to do this, it places an emotional burden on the members.  In one church, members made an agreement with one another not to speak the name of a former pastor except in private for nearly twenty years after the pastor left the community and moved to another state!”

However, Jesus spoke about John the Baptizer – who was also His cousin – on many occasions in public (Matt. 11:11; 21:32; Mark 11:30; Luke 7:33).  Jesus provides a healthy example for pastors in that regard.  But not all pastors do this:

“In reality, the opposite is often the case.  A pastor is sometimes so threatened by the esteem paid to a predecessor that he or she gives the signal to members that they are not to speak about the predecessor in the pastor’s presence.”

We might expect this kind of behavior from an ex-wife, or an ego-driven politician, but a pastor?  Out of all professions, wouldn’t you think that a pastor could handle talk about his predecessor with grace and class?

Many years ago, I became a staff member in a church where the previous staffer was practically worshiped.

Not only did I know this man, but he recommended that I succeed him.

He was a dedicated man … a thoughtful man … a gifted man … but he’d be the first one to tell you he wasn’t a god.

But after he left, he assumed godlike status.  (Years later, we both had a good laugh over this.)

For my first six months in that church, I couldn’t do anything right.  I was criticized by some of the students and especially the adult leaders, who missed their friend terribly.

My sin?  I wasn’t him.

I didn’t understand the attachment they had to him, so I didn’t know how to handle matters.

They were grieving the loss of someone who meant a great deal to them.  If I had been more mature, I could have dealt with the issue openly … and mentioned his name out loud.

The problem wasn’t between the two of us … it was between his followers and me.

One day, while reading John 3, I came upon the passage where John the Baptist’s ministry was receding into the shadows while Jesus stepped into the limelight.

John’s disciples were pretty upset about this transition.  But John settled them down, climaxing in his famous statement in John 3:30:

“He must increase, but I must decrease.”

John was secure in his role.  He knew he wasn’t the Messiah … he was the forerunner to the Messiah.

The problem wasn’t between John and Jesus … it was between John’s followers and Jesus … as well as His newly-called disciples.

John defused things nicely and let Jesus take over … and Jesus returned the favor by openly mentioning and complimenting John on many occasions.

Isn’t this a great model for pastors today?

Every pastor will leave a church someday … even a beloved church.

A pastor might die in the pulpit … or suffer disability and quit … or be involuntarily terminated … or take a position in another church … or retire gracefully.

But every pastor will eventually leave a church.

If the next pastor won’t mention the name of his predecessor in public, and retains jealous feelings about his success, and tries to dismantle ministries the previous pastor constructed, then the new pastor’s ego is much too large … and God will have to work on shrinking it … just like He did with me in the story above.

(Just for kicks, mention the names of one or two of your church’s previous pastors to your current pastor, and see how he responds.)

While attending a class in my doctoral program, I jogged one day over to a megachurch in the area.

As I entered the lobby, I noticed a painting of the church’s present pastor, along with his two predecessors.

Predecessor Number One was a great preacher and an author who had written some books I had once read.

Predecessor Number Two was a friend of my father-in-law and an author as well.

The present pastor had taught a class that I took in college and had once led a retreat for 50 kids in my youth group.

The painting seemed to say, “We are all friends and colleagues.  No one of us is better than the other.  You cannot drive a wedge between us, so don’t even try.”

Maybe a church could invite all of its living pastors together sometime … for a church reunion, or a social event, or the installation of a new pastor.

The pastors could catch up … and swap stories with each other … and take a tour of the facility together … and begin to bond as leaders … and friends.

Someone might even commission a photograph or a painting that could be hung in a promiment place in the church as if to say:

“These are the pastors who have made us who we are today.”

Maybe they could even be asked to stand in front of the congregation and say nice things about each other.

What do you think about this issue?  I’d love to hear your thoughts!

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We said goodbye today to our 17-year-old dog.

Norman Riding Shotgun

I grew up in a home with cats … but we never considered having dogs.  It didn’t help when the German Shepherd next door bit my sister … and besides, I was scared to death of dogs.

And they all seemed to hate me.

But when our family moved to Arizona 14 years ago, our daughter Sarah asked if she could have a dog.  After much soul searching, I finally said yes, and Sarah promptly named him Norman … even though it would take a while for Sarah to find him.

After six months in Phoenix, Sarah and I ventured over to the animal shelter in Glendale one hot July day, and Sarah selected a scrawny, crazy-looking dog named Mac.  When we told the shelter personnel that we wanted Mac, two older women announced that they wanted him as well.  Sarah and I went outside the shelter and prayed, and after drawing straws, we won the rights to Mac … immediately christened Norman instead.

He instantly became a part of our family.

Norman with My Family at Easter

Norman was a peculiar dog, to say the least.  When we first brought him home, he scurried all over the house … like he was insane.  It was evident that he had been abused … but we were determined to love him unconditionally.

Since I worked at home, and everyone else went to school and/or work, Norman and I were left together for much of the week.  He used to lie under my desk while I worked, and I’d carry him down the street when we picked up the mail.

On our first Christmas Eve, we all went to church except Norman, who proceeded to locate the chocolate kisses under the tree and devour many of them before we got home … and yes, I know about dogs and chocolate.  (Nothing happened.)

Norman Dressed for Christmas

Norman loved going to church … turned over and folded his hands when we told him to “pray” … enjoyed popcorn more than his own dog food … barked at me whenever I got close to Kim … and ran on three legs.

And because he couldn’t/wouldn’t walk his last few years, we pushed him around in a stroller whenever we took a walk.  (And received lots of stares.)

Women usually thought he was cute, while men would say, “That’s not a dog.  A rat, maybe, or a possum … but not a dog.”

Kim and Her Buddy

But we didn’t mind.  We didn’t have Norman in our lives so he would win contests, but so we could share love.

I won’t miss the nights when he peed in our bed, but I’ll miss holding him on my lap, petting his little head, and watching the little guy sleep.

When we drove through 14 states several weeks ago, Norman acted like a champion.  He survived an 800-mile drive one day and a few nights in hotels.  He even got to see Niagara Falls.

Norman Visiting Niagara Falls

But several nights ago, it was obvious something was seriously wrong with him.

I secretly hoped that we would wake up one day and Norman would be gone.  Then I wouldn’t have to go to the vet and pay for someone to take him away from us.

But when we took him to the vet this morning, Kim felt it was time to let him go … but I wasn’t ready yet.  My emotions were battling with my brain.

We finally had to ask ourselves: “Are we keeping him alive for our sake, or for his?”

If he just wants to go to sleep, who are we to stand in his way?

Having done this kind of thing once before, part of me preferred just to hand Norman over to the vet and leave … but Kim told me she was going to stay through the whole procedure.

Even though she said I could go, I wanted to support her, so I stayed.

After the “medication” was administered, Norman looked lovingly up at Kim … the person he loved and trusted most … and then he was gone.

Two Wild and Crazy Friends

I’m a better person for owning Norman.  I’m much more patient and compassionate … and I’m not afraid of dogs anymore.

But what I feel best about is that we truly loved Norman to the very end of his life.  We couldn’t have loved him any more than we did.

I’ll get back to blogging about church stuff later this week … but for now, I just want to remember a little 8-pound ball of fur who touched my life deeply.

Rest in peace, my sweet Norman.

And I hope the theologians are wrong and that I get to see you again someday.

Normie and Me

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It’s frustrating to wait for something you really want, isn’t it?

If you’re stuck on the freeway, it’s hard to wait for traffic to clear up.

If you’re in school, it’s hard to wait for graduation.

If you’re unattached, it’s hard to wait for the Right One.

If you’re employed, it’s hard to wait for vacation.

If you’re a believer, it’s hard to wait for Jesus to return.

I decided to see how many of my songs on iTunes contained the word “wait,” and found 98 such songs … including titles like “Wait for the Healing,” “I’m Waiting for the Day,” “Crying, Waiting, Hoping” “Don’t Let Me Wait Too Long,” “Wait a Million Years,” “Waiting for Lightning,” and a song simply titled, “The Waiting” … which contains the classic line, “The waiting is the hardest part.”

In a culture where we’re used to fast food, instant messages, and downloads of e-books in less than one minute, there doesn’t seem to be any benefit to waiting.

In fact, waiting is viewed as a curse, something to be obliterated by newer technology.

If you’re waiting for something right now … a job interview … medical test results … the birth of a child … improved physical and emotional health … even for the election season to be over … let me encourage you with these verses from God’s Word:

Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord.  Psalm 27:14

We wait in hope for the Lord; he is our help and our shield.  Psalm 33:20

Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for him; do not fret when men succeed in their ways, when they carry out their wicked schemes.  Psalm 37:7

I waited patiently for the Lord; he turned to me and heard my cry.  Psalm 40:1

I wait for the Lord, my soul waits, and in his word I put my hope.  Psalm 130:5

Yet the Lord longs to be gracious to you; he rises to show you compassion.  For the Lord is a God of justice.  Blessed are all who wait for him!  Isaiah 30:18

Those who wait on the Lord will renew their strength.  They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.  Isaiah 40:31

A few days after celebrating our tenth wedding anniversary, my wife went into the hospital for major abdominal surgery.  Because she was experiencing tremendous pain, she had to undergo some tests … and one of her doctors thought he detected a mass.

My wife’s father came to give us support, and after my wife was wheeled into the operating room, we had to figure out what to do with ourselves until we received word of her condition.

We could have gone to the waiting room and remained silent … or buried our heads in books … or watched inane programs on television.

In our day, we’d play with our smart phones, or do Sudoku puzzles, or read an e-book.

But what we were really doing was just passing time until the surgeon appeared to give us news.  (And when he finally emerged, she didn’t have a mass, but another problem that was resolved in the OR.)

My wife has had many procedures and operations since that first one, and I’ve had to learn how to pass the time in many waiting rooms.

It’s especially hard when the surgeon tells you a procedure will take two hours, and three hours later, you haven’t heard a thing.

But sitting in that waiting room, there is nothing you can do to hurry the process along.  You have to sit there and wait.

And trust that while you’re waiting, the physician is working.

This is what our Bible tells us: that while we wait impatiently for Mr. Right, or better health, or news on the job front, our God is working on our behalf … for His glory … and our good.

While we’re waiting, He’s working.

Twila Paris has always been one of my favorite Christian musical artists.  If you’re struggling with waiting right now, I encourage you to listen to the lyrics of her song, “I Will Listen” … especially these:

This is the faith, patience to wait

When there is nothing clear

Nothing to see, still we believe

Jesus is very near

I cannot imagine what will come

But I’ve already made my choice

And this is where I stand until He moves me on

And I will listen to His voice

If you’d like to listen to the song with lyrics attached, just click here:

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If you’re struggling with waiting … something I know about all too well … take time to listen for His voice.

And when He speaks … act with confidence … knowing that while you’ve been waiting, He’s been working.

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