Why should anyone officially join a church anymore?
For years, I had a ready answer: to commit yourself to a specific group of believers at a specific time and place.
But I’ve changed my tune – and am willing to be shown the light.
I grew up in an era when pastors offered altar calls at the end of every service. While we sang a hymn, the pastor would invite attendees to walk to the front of the church (“the altar”) which signified they were making a spiritual decision.
Sometimes if you walked forward during the first stanza, you were indicating you desired salvation. Second stanza? Baptism. Third stanza? Rededication. Final stanza? Church membership.
Choreography aside, membership was considered so important that (a) you made your desire for membership public, and (b) it became the culmination of the conversion-baptism-rededication sequence.
In one church, a man named Gary walked forward for salvation on Sunday morning. He was baptized that night and immediately voted into membership.
We never saw him again.
The practice of “instant membership” is still followed in some churches. I recently visited a church in my area where two women went forward after the sermon and were quickly voted into membership by the worshipers. (I didn’t vote.)
Although some would disagree, “instant” membership seems like “cheap” membership to me – and cheap membership feels meaningless.
I know a pastor who leads a church without formal membership. If someone desires membership, they fill out a card and are told, “Now you’re a member.”
This leads me to ask: where does the whole membership idea come from, anyway?
Does it come from Scripture? I’ve searched the New Testament and can’t find “official membership” anywhere. The word “member” is used in passages like Romans 12:4-5; 1 Corinthians 12:24; Ephesians 3:6; 4:25; 5:30 – but it metaphorically compares believers to parts of the body, not joining a local church.
So if the New Testament doesn’t command or emphasize official membership – and it doesn’t – then how essential is it for spiritual growth or serving Jesus?
Once upon a time, churches were divided into members and non-members. If you weren’t a member, you didn’t feel that you belonged. Some churches even practiced “closed communion” where only members could take the Lord’s Supper.
When you became a member, you were invited to the front of the worship center on a Sunday morning and given the right hand of fellowship by the pastor – an indication that you were now “official.”
And yes, people back then treated members differently than non-members.
Sadly, this kind of thinking still occurs. I received a phone call several years ago from a man who was in the hospital and near death’s door. He asked if I would come and pray for him. I instantly agreed. He told me that he’d called another minister in town who asked, “Are you a member of our church?” When he said he wasn’t, the pastor declined to see him.
To me, that’s wrong. I don’t see a member/non-member distinction in the New Testament. If we are to pray for and love our enemies, as Jesus commanded, then certainly we are to do the same for non-members.
In fact, the trend for the past 30 years has been to assimilate unchurched people into church life – loving them unconditionally – so they do receive Christ eventually … whether or not they ever formally join the church.
Every church has non-members who attend regularly, serve willingly, and give generously. And every church has members who attend sporadically, never serve, and rarely give.
Aren’t those in the first group acting more like members – and are more committed – than those in the second group?
In our haste to quanitfy everything, are we making distinctions that neither Jesus nor His apostles ever made?
What are the advantages of membership to a church?
*Bolster congregational statistics (“We have 300 members.”)
*Expect people to attend, serve, and give consistently
*Can discipline members (especially leaders) and hold them accountable
*Can remove the membership of troublemakers
What are the advantages to a member?
*Get to vote on a handful of issues (usually annually)
*Receive a membership certificate
*Receive a church constitution
*Feel like you really belong
When a person first joins a church, they are showered with attention. But doesn’t that usually fade over time?
Maybe I’m blind, but it seems to me that membership confers few benefits but requires enormous responsibilities. In fact, the church receives 90% of the benefits without offering much that is unique.
For example, in Ken Sande’s book The Peacemaker, he assumes that Christians in a local church will become members. Why? So that church leaders have leverage (“accountability”) when dealing with uncooperative individuals.
So does membership have an inherently strong control component built in?
I haven’t heard one word about membership at the church we’ve been attending the past 16 months. The church is about three words: WIN, TRAIN, SEND. More than 1,400 people have come to Christ already this year.
They’re much more missional than institutional.
In fact, I’ve observed that the more missional a church is, the less they emphasize membership, but the more institutional they are, the more they emphasize it.
In other words, if we can’t convert unbelievers into believers, then at least we can convert believers into members.
While I believe that church membership can be meaningful, we need to create a better rationale for the practice than “we’ve always done it that way” or “it means something to me” or “it signifies loyalty to my church.”
When I join Costco, I receive lots of benefits, like bulk packaging, cheap lunches, free samples, and great discounts. I willingly pay my dues every June for those privileges.
But what do I get for joining a church that I don’t get if I don’t join?
I can still join in worship, hear sermons, sample refreshments, attend classes, join a small group, use my spiritual gifts, ask for prayer … and so much more.
Want to straighten me out?
Bidding Farewell to Literary Friends
Posted in Personal Stories, Please Comment! on October 28, 2011| 4 Comments »
Can you remember the day when you first met a good friend?
I recall so many of those days. Great memories!
But can you also remember the last time you ever saw those friends? How it hurt to say goodbye? How you weren’t sure you’d ever see them again?
I’m about to experience that feeling multiplied many times over.
Because for 40 years, books have been my friends.
My wife and I have been reviewing every possession we own to see if we want to (a) keep it, (b) sell it, (c) trash it, or (d) give it away. I applied for an exemption for my books, but it was denied.
When we moved into our current home, I carefully went through every book I owned, placing the ones I value most on the bookshelves in my study. Here’s a photo of 60% of them:
Books I'm Keeping
I have so many books that I buy very few anymore, although I do let myself be seduced on occasion. If I can purchase a volume on Kindle for a lesser rate than a hard copy, I’ll do that. There just isn’t space anymore for all my friends.
And they are my friends. I can tell you when I first met most of them.
Some I inherited from my grandfather or father.
Some were purchased for me by my mother or wife or children.
Some were obtained through CBD – Christian Book Discounters, the mail-order group.
Some were bought at bookstores, although those are becoming increasingly extinct.
Some were given to me as gifts by people I treasure – and in most cases, I’m saving those, even if I never plan on using them again.
And some were purchased on Amazon, the website that has curtailed my bookstore visits by 78%.
Many people have asked me, “Jim, have you read all those books?” My answer is always the same: “No, I’ve read many of them, but I’ve used all of them.”
Some books are signed by people like Nolan Ryan, Rod Carew, John Wooden, Barry Goldwater, Robert Novak, Josh McDowell, and R. A. Torrey. Those are definitely keepers.
But other books are dated. I have a set of small paperbacks from 30 years ago on how to do church ministry. I devoured those books at the time, but they’re practically worthless today – so maybe someone else can use them.
Then there are sets I acquired when I was in college, like William Hendriksen’s commentaries on the New Testament. I read his entire commentary on Mark and used all the others, but I haven’t consulted them in years – so off they go.
I found a large bookstore not too far away that buys book collections. They even come to your house to make you an offer. How much do you think I can get for 17 boxes’ worth?
Departing Friends
There’s just something about books that I love: the typeset, the layout, sometimes even the smell … it’s all so inviting.
My friends have never rejected me, though they play hide’n’seek at times. They’re just always there when I need them.
After looking at every one of my companions, I’ve decided to keep the rest of the books in these boxes:
Friends I'm Keeping - for Now
I promised my wife that I’d only keep enough books to fill one more bookshelf. I get six shelves, she gets two – and one is for DVDs. So I’m going to have to say goodbye to even more friends in the future.
It’s almost unbearable.
When I’m watching sports … when I’m ready to fall asleep … when I’m meeting with God … when I’m conducting research … when I need some friendly advice … when I just want to curl up on a rainy day … I reach out for a friend.
And my friends have never let me down.
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