It is possible to read the New Testament dozens of times and yet miss the clear meaning of certain verses.
For years, I missed these two:
“Don’t you know that you yourselves are God’s temple and that God’s Spirit lives in you? If anyone destroys God’s temple, God will destroy him; for God’s temple is sacred, and you are that temple.”
These words of Paul from 1 Corinthians 3:16-17 sound like they come from the Old Testament: “If anyone destroys God’s temple, God will destroy him.”
What is God’s temple in this context?
God’s temple is a local church. (The terms “you yourselves” and “you” in verse 16 are both plural.)
What’s Paul saying?
That anyone … believer or unbeliever … who destroys a local church will be destroyed by God Himself. (Sounds like a guarantee, doesn’t it?)
Wow.
God’s Spirit lives among His people. God’s church is sacred.
Therefore, if an individual or a group destroys a local church, God promises to destroy them.
How many times can you recall hearing anyone preach this text?
I’m not aware that I’ve ever heard any preacher or teacher highlight or explain these verses … but they are there all the same.
What’s the most common way of destroying a congregation?
That’s easy: attack the pastor until he’s forced to resign. Gary Pinion writes in his book Crushed: The Perilous Side of Ministry:
“Spiritual leaders are prime targets in these last days. The Bible tells us that if you strike a shepherd, the sheep will scatter. Entire congregations can be wiped out with a single blow to one shepherd. For this reason they are the number one public enemy on Satan’s hit list…. Corresponding with this gigantic loss of shepherds, new studies are also providing growing evidence of a great loss of churches. A study in Exit Interviews by Hendricks shows the appalling results of the loss of ministers: there are now 53,000 people leaving churches weekly who are not coming back. George Barna’s research sadly declares that we are losing one percent of our churches in America every year, as godly warriors depart from the battle arena. As shepherds leave, sheep leave.”
Pinion then quotes a woman whose congregational experienced major conflict:
“The conflict resulted in the pastor being forced to leave. Because of this decision, the people who supported the pastor left the church. The church attendance was reduced to half, relationships were severed, weekly income was drastically cut, and various ministries in the church were forced to disband. The church became known in the community as a place of power struggles, fighting and discontent. I could go on and on.”
The latest statistic I’ve run across is that 4,000 churches close down every year in the United States.
Let’s acknowledge that a small percentage of pastors may contribute to the destruction of a church through domination, intimidation, manipulation, or retribution. Some pastors have behaved so badly that they have almost singlehandedly wiped out a church they’ve pastored.
But the great majority of the time, churches are destroyed by lay powerbrokers who want to limit their pastor’s authority so they can expand their own influence and that of their friends.
If I disagreed with something my pastor was doing or saying, I would make an appointment and speak to him lovingly and directly.
If he didn’t agree with me, I would either stay and support him or leave the church … without taking anybody with me. (Division in a church begins when people pass on their personal complaints to others.)
Based on the entire tenor of the New Testament … and specifically 1 Corinthians 3:16-17 … I would never want to do anything to destroy a church that Jesus is building in a particular community.
But if I found out that I had contributed to a church’s destruction, I would repent immediately … or else be wondering constantly when God was going to take me out.
These verses don’t specify how God chooses to destroy a church destroyer. His wrath could be exhibited in this life (primarily for a believer) or in the next life (possibly for an unbeliever).
But however God decides to deal with someone, He has an infinite number of punishments at His disposal.
If you’re a lay leader in a church … maybe a board member, or a deacon, or a ministry team leader … I beg you: be very, very careful how you treat and speak of your pastor.
Pastors are not infallible. They make mistakes. And when they mess up, they need to be graciously and truthfully confronted.
But you should always aim for their restoration and redemption, never their punishment and destruction.
Remember Paul’s phrase: “If anyone destroys God’s temple, God will destroy him.”
Sounds scary, doesn’t it?
That’s exactly how God intended for it to sound.
Five Reasons Pastoral Terminations Continue to Increase
Posted in Conflict with the Pastor, Pastoral Termination, Please Comment!, tagged pastoral dismissal, pastoral exits, pastoral termination on August 22, 2014| 6 Comments »
Last year, I planned to present some seminars on church conflict. I decided to visit some area churches and drop off some promotional literature about the seminars.
Someone I respected had spoken highly of a particular church, so I stopped there first. Walking into the church office, I introduced myself and mentioned that I would be offering some seminars on conflict.
The office manager blurted out, “We’ve hired Such-and-Such an organization for a year to work on the conflict we’re having with our leaders.”
She didn’t know anything about me, and yet she readily confessed that her church was enduring major conflict!
And nearly every major conflict revolves around the pastor in some fashion … and many times, the solution to the conflict seems obvious:
“Let’s get rid of the pastor.”
The latest figure that I’ve seen is that 28% of all pastors have endured a forced exit at some time in their ministry … and the numbers seem to be increasing because most denominations and churches are doing absolutely nothing about the problem. Call it the Christian version of Survival of the Fittest.
Why do pastoral terminations continue to increase? Let me offer five possible reasons:
First, pastors and churches are in denial about this issue.
When they’re called to a church, few pastors think to themselves, “I could face termination here.”
When church leaders initially call a pastor, almost nobody says, “If things don’t work out, let’s can him.”
And yet several years later, a faction may very well coalesce to force the pastor to quit … and nearly everybody in the congregation is shocked.
Pastors and Christian leaders need to say to themselves: “Because forced exits are a reality in today’s Christian community, we need to work hard at staying current with our relationships because an involuntary dismissal could happen here.”
But for some reason, that’s not how we think.
Second, pastors have received little formal training in conflict resolution.
I remember the first big conflict I experienced as a rookie pastor. The board chairman asked for my help in dealing with a specific issue. I brought it to the board. We studied it for three hours and then developed an action plan.
When I began to carry out the plan, the entire board caved on me, and then demanded that I apologize for carrying out the plan. I refused because we had agreed on it together.
I was a PK … had been in church ministry for nearly ten years … had taken a class on conflict management in seminary … and yet I didn’t know how to handle or interpret the behavior of those board members.
During that time, a friend came to visit me, and I had developed a case of hives because I was afraid the board was going to dismiss me as they had the previous pastor.
I believe that every student in seminary who is studying for church ministry should be required to take a class in conflict management … and maintain at least two mentors who understand church conflict while they’re in ministry.
Because when pastors are skilled in handling conflict, they sleep better … lengthen their careers … and preserve their congregations.
Third, pastors rarely speak on biblical conflict management.
Last year, I gave a sermon on conflict resolution based on Matthew 18:15-18, and when I was done, a veteran Christian in her mid-80s said to me, “In all my years of going to church, that’s the first time I’ve ever heard a sermon on that subject.”
For years, this woman attended a church where her pastor was internationally known.
Maybe he did address conflict at times during his sermons, and maybe she just forgot or wasn’t present on those occasions … but maybe she was telling the truth, too.
When I was a pastor, I did a brief series on unity/conflict management at the same time every year. The one year I didn’t do it … thinking, “We’re okay right now” … conflict broke out soon afterward.
When Paul wrote his letters to the churches at Rome and Corinth and Ephesus and Thessalonica, those letters weren’t intended for church leaders alone, but were intended to be read to entire congregations. Paul wanted everyone in those churches to work through their differences with love and understanding.
In the same way, pastors both need to teach on church conflict from Scripture and arrange for specialized training for their staff and leaders.
Because if and when the pastor is under attack, some people will resort to the law of the jungle.
Fourth, churchgoers need a mental picture of what a church looks like after a termination.
When I was in fourth grade, I saw newsreels of Hitler speaking … Nazi torchlight parades … and the remains of Jewish victims in concentration camps.
Those images had a profound impact on me. They caused me to read more about Hitler’s rise to power and to become aware of the devastation that results when evil is tolerated rather than defeated.
My book Church Coup: A Cautionary Tale of Congregational Conflict is an attempt at letting believers know how quickly a conflict can erupt in a church … and how destructive such conflicts are for everyone involved.
My prayer is that believers will say, “I don’t want my pastor’s career and reputation destroyed. I don’t want precious believers to leave this church wounded. I don’t want to compromise my church’s witness in this community for years. With God’s help, I will do everything in my power to prevent and resolve any conflicts in a truthful and loving manner.”
Sometimes I toy with the idea of making a film about pastoral termination that starts with congregational devastation … and then works backward to see how it all began.
(Anybody want to work on this with me … or finance it?)
Finally, Christians seem ignorant of the fact that Satan wants to destroy pastors so he can destroy churches.
After Jesus was arrested, all of His disciples fled. When the shepherd was struck, the sheep scattered.
Satan thought he had won a victory … but he was wrong. But the disciples didn’t regather on their own.
When did they regather? Only after Jesus was resurrected and reassumed His rightful place as their leader.
I believe in spiritual warfare. I have not only experienced it … I have felt it.
When I made mistakes … as every pastor does … I should have been lovingly confronted and given the opportunity to explain and/or be restored.
Instead, there was open abuse … defamation … and slander.
That’s not how God operates, is it?
Remember: the devil specializes in deception and destruction. Those are the telltale signs that he is at work either in our lives or inside the life of our congregation.
I could add many other reasons why the forced termination of pastors is on the increase, but these are the five that readily came to mind.
What are some of the reasons why you believe pastoral exits are increasing?
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