Like you, I’ve heard a lot in the past few days about U.S. Army Sgt. Bowe Bergdahl.
Like you, I have some personal opinions about the wisdom of exchanging five terrorist leaders for the sergeant.
Like you, I wonder why Sgt. Bergdahl ended up being captured by the Haqqani network.
And like you, I don’t know whether Sgt. Bergdahl is guilty of desertion … or innocent … or something in between.
But I do know this: Sgt. Bergdahl has not yet told his side of the story … and until he does … we need to be very careful about making final judgments.
Why bring this up on a blog devoted to pastors and church conflict?
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Several months ago, a friend and colleague sent me an email.
My friend had spent several hours with a pastor who was forced out of a church he had planted.
One of the staff members began spreading a rumor that the pastor and his wife were taking illegal drugs.
Someone called a public meeting.
When the pastor stood up to confront the charges being made about him, those who opposed him stood up and shouted, “You’re lying!”
Because they kept yelling at their pastor, he finally stopped talking and walked out of the church … and resigned soon afterward.
Satan couldn’t have planned it any better.
That pastor – and all pastors – need to be protected by the following safeguards in every church:
First, the pastor has the right to know any charges being made about him.
How many people told that pastor that people were saying he was taking illegal drugs?
My guess: few, if any.
I was recently told for the first time about a charge some people made about me 4 1/2 years ago.
The charge was 100% false, but why wasn’t I told about it sooner? How many people believe it to this day?
And why wasn’t I ever given a chance to defend myself against that charge?
Second, the pastor has the right to meet with his accusers.
The staff member who made the accusation about drug usage needed to speak with the pastor and his wife before taking his charge to anyone else.
By taking his charge to others first, he could have ruined their reputations and careers. What if the charge was totally false?
If a similar charge was made against a top leader in a secular corporation … and it proved to be false … the person making the charge would be dismissed and possibly sued for slander.
When people make charges against a pastor … but never make the charges to his face … they almost always exaggerate the charges. Remember that.
Third, the pastor has the right to see any and all evidence against him.
What kind of evidence did the staff member have that the pastor and his wife were taking drugs? Blood tests? Photographs? Eyewitness accounts?
Or was it all just speculation?
The pastor needed to be presented with all the evidence.
If the evidence was strong, the pastor might have privately asked for forgiveness … or gone into rehab … or resigned on his own … without involving the congregation.
But if the evidence was fabricated … or misinterpreted … then the pastor needed to be able to tell his side of the story.
Otherwise, when we don’t like a pastor, we can just manufacture lies about him, and he’ll be forced to leave … without anyone ever discovering where those lies originated.
Fourth, the pastor should never initially be confronted with a charge in public.
Why would a staff member take a charge against his pastor public?
To embarrass him? To humiliate him? To use the power of the mob?
Yes, yes, and yes … but most of all, to engage in retribution.
Many of the charges that people make against pastors are really punitive in nature.
How can you tell?
Because the people making the charges never talk about restoring their pastor … or redeeming him … but only about removing him.
Where do we ever find that sentiment in the New Testament?
Finally, the pastor should be given due process whenever charges are made against him.
Many … if not most … churches lack such a process.
And even if they do have one, the process (found in church bylaws) is often ignored because people become anxious and overly-emotional.
But it’s critical that a pastor … as well as any spiritual leader … be allowed to have a hearing and tell his version of events. Proverbs 18:17 says, “The first to present his case seems right, till another comes forward and questions him.”
When do church leaders ever question those who make charges against their pastor?
The ethos in most churches is that whenever people make accusations against a pastor, they’re almost always accurate.
But they aren’t … not by a long shot.
In the story about the pastor allegedly taking drugs, why did the pastor’s opponents shout him down when he tried to answer their charges?
Because they didn’t want their pastor to be given due process. They had already selected themselves as judge, jury, and executioner, and in their eyes, he was guilty.
But if he had been allowed to speak, the truth would have exposed their own guilt and hatred, and they could not allow that to occur.
My prayer for churchgoers everywhere is that whenever they have concerns about their pastor’s character or behavior, they will insist on a fair process rather than immediately declare his innocence or his guilt.
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I don’t know the complete truth about Sgt. Bergdahl. Maybe nobody does right now.
But he shouldn’t be tried in the press, especially when he can’t answer the charges that people are making against him.
In the meantime, I’m going to try and keep an open mind about his guilt or innocence, especially after I read this article today from the pastor of the Bergdahl family:
Bowe Bergdahl’s Former Pastor Shares His Personal Reflections on the Recent Events
He will have his day in court. Then we’ll find out the truth.
But please remember: neither the mainstream media … nor social media … nor your dinner table … constitute a fair and final court.
One Way to Resolve Church Conflicts
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I’ve recently been doing an intensive study of Numbers 16 … the story of Korah’s rebellion against Moses and Aaron.
Korah and three of his colleagues … along with 250 community leaders … decide that they don’t want to follow Moses’ leadership anymore.
Why not?
The group approaches Moses and Aaron and says in Numbers 16:3: “You have gone too far! The whole community is holy, every one of them, and the Lord is with them. Why then do you set yourselves above the Lord’s assembly?”
Translation: “There is nothing special about you two leaders. We are just as holy as you are. So why are you always telling us what to do? We’re not going to take it anymore!”
Moses and Aaron were old men. It’s possible that Korah was much younger and felt he could do a better job at overseeing priestly duties than Aaron could.
But as the story proceeds, it’s obvious that God sides with Moses and Aaron and opposes the attempted coup.
Most church conflicts begin because a group inside the church believes that they know how to run the church better than the official leadership … usually the pastor.
Their attitude is, “We’re more spiritual than the pastor … we’re smarter … we’re more resourceful … we’re more in touch with the congregation … so we should be running the church rather than him!”
Whenever these conflicts arise in churches … and they arise all the time … most people miss the best way to resolve the conflict.
The question is not, “Who is best qualified to lead this church?”
The question is, “Who did God call to lead this church?”
Moses told the coalition in Numbers 16:11: “It is against the Lord that you and all your followers have banded together.” They thought they were rebelling against two human leaders, but Moses says, “No, by rebelling against God’s leaders, you’re really rebelling against the Lord.”
Moses goes on in Numbers 16:28, “This is how you will know that the Lord has sent me to do all these things and that it was not my idea.” Then he proposes a test to determine who is on God’s side and who is not.
Early in my ministry, I inherited a church board full of wonderful men … all except for Don.
Don wanted to take our church back to the 1950s – even though it was the late 1980s – and he wanted us to reinvent ourselves into a small, Midwestern church … even though we were located in California.
I was trying to take the church forward, while he insisted we go backward.
Don had not been called by God to pastor a church … but he was called by friends to lead a rebellion.
Don had not been formally trained in biblical interpretation or pastoral ministry … but he knew something about politics and power.
Don had not been given the spiritual gifts of leadership or teaching … but he didn’t need those gifts to subvert his pastor.
Don had not been ordained to gospel ministry … but that didn’t matter to him.
Don held secret meetings … listed all my faults, including those of my wife and children … and then demanded that I resign.
The elders of Israel supported Moses and stood by him … and the elders in our church did the same.
Don’s group quickly left the church … started their own church a mile away … and used our church as their mission field.
But a year later, their church folded.
God had called Don to be a dock worker, not a pastor.
And He had called me to be a pastor, not a dock worker.
God had called Moses to lead Israel, not Korah.
And He had called Korah to be a Levite, not the leader of a nation.
Many church conflicts could be resolved if God’s people would take some time to read Scripture … do some reflection … and ask this question:
Who did God call to lead this congregation?
If the answer is Moses … follow him.
If the answer is your pastor … follow him.
But if you follow Korah … or Don … things aren’t going to work out for you … guaranteed.
All you’re going to do is hurt a lot of people … including you and your family.
If your pastor isn’t leading or preaching or pastoring like he could be … then pray for him … and love him … and listen to him … and support him … as long as he follows the Lord.
That’s far better than watching the ground open up and swallow you and your family whole.
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