Several years ago, a pastor of a medium-sized church called to tell me that he had been fired.
He told me there was no warning involved, that he was not offered any severance pay, and that he had no idea how to support his family financially.
The pastor said that he wasn’t guilty of any major offense. He thought the church was going well, but evidently some in leadership didn’t think so.
And I wondered, as I always do, “How could the official board of that church treat their pastor that way?”
Or to put it another way, “What kind of person would fire their pastor without any reason and proceed to cut off his finances as well?”
I couldn’t do that. Could you?
Based on my experiences in various churches, let me share five traits of a board member who could easily fire their pastor:
First, the board member has a job where he makes unilateral decisions.
Maybe he owns his own company. Maybe he is an attorney or a doctor with great community influence. Maybe he’s been given carte blanche in his job to hire or fire personnel.
It’s easy for such a person to take off their “spiritual leader” hat at church and replace it with their “corporate decision maker” hat instead.
I’m not saying that every strong, independent leader in the marketplace is like this, but all too many are, and they are often the ones at the forefront of the pastor’s ouster.
But I can’t even imagine having this kind of mindset.
My wife and I run a small business together. If I think we should do something different, I run it by her first. Sometimes she agrees, sometimes she doesn’t.
I won’t proceed without her blessing. I am not the fount of all wisdom!
But a board member who can easily fire a pastor believes that he is the fount of all wisdom … or that he should be calling the shots at church rather than the pastor, the staff, or the congregation.
If such a person is able to force out the pastor, he or she will become the undisputed leader of the church, even if it’s just behind the scenes.
And that’s what they want.
Second, the board member thinks he knows more than the pastor does about the church’s direction.
If the pastor thinks the church should reach young couples, this board member thinks the church should reach young people instead.
If the pastor thinks the church should be more outreach-oriented, this board member thinks the church should focus more on its own members.
If the pastor thinks the church should take some God-ordained risks, this board member thinks the church should play it safe and only do what’s in the budget.
If this board member senses that he has more influence than the pastor, he may very well plot to remove the pastor from office.
But if he senses he doesn’t have the clout, he’ll either hang around and sabotage the pastor’s leadership, or he’ll leave the church and take as many with him as possible.
But I can’t even imagine sabotaging a church’s direction … especially if it’s the result of months of prayer and planning.
If my pastor wasn’t good at the “vision thing,” I would do my best to help him devise a process where many people could have input on the church’s future.
But I would want his voice to be prominent, because the pastor casts vision from the pulpit, and even the most powerful board member can’t do that.
Third, the board member has secret allies on the board, in the staff, or with a powerful faction.
Most board members who fire their pastor are reasonably sure that they have “enough” support from prominent individuals in their church.
They usually have one or two sidekicks on the board. These people are relatively quiet but gain power by supporting their vocal colleague.
They also have their fingers in the church staff, receiving a steady flow of information from the office manager, a youth pastor, the worship leader, or an associate pastor.
Every pastor needs allies, especially when conflict surfaces. I was always strengthened when a board member told me, “Jim, I have your back on this one.”
But I can’t imagine collecting allies so we could push out the pastor together.
It usually takes at least a year of complaining … undermining … resisting … and plotting for a board member to gain sufficient allies to force out their pastor.
Think of all that negative energy! Couldn’t it be better used for instruction or outreach?
But all that matters to such a board member is power.
Fourth, the board member pays scant attention to biblical teaching on conflict resolution.
More than three decades ago, I was discussing a controversial passage in Paul’s epistles with a board member.
This board member … whom I inherited … told me, “Whenever I come upon a passage like that, I just turn the page.”
Maybe it’s no wonder that he later became the worst antagonist I’ve ever had in any church.
This man had an agenda: to turn our California church into the Swedish church from Wisconsin that he loved so much.
If I went along with his agenda, he would support me. If I didn’t, he would oppose me.
I didn’t go along with his agenda. I couldn’t.
Sadly, I could never appeal to him on the basis of Scripture. The Word of God didn’t govern his life … only his feelings and preferences did.
I remember discussing this man and his wife with a prominent Christian leader who visited our church one Sunday. This leader – an expert in spiritual warfare – told me to get this couple out of the church and off the rolls as quickly as possible.
They eventually did leave, but took 25% of the church with them in the process.
But I can’t imagine being a spiritual leader in a church and yet ignoring the written Word of God concerning conflict! I have no idea how the previous pastor let this guy on the board, but when he did, he sowed seeds of destruction that lasted for years.
Finally, the board member desires relief from personal anxiety.
Two years ago, I attended a conference on church conflict with author and prominent church conflict consultant Peter Steinke.
Steinke said that whenever the official board is dissatisfied with their pastor or his performance, they should create a plan and give their pastor twelve to fifteen months to improve.
That sounds fair and reasonable, doesn’t it? If the pastor senses after a few months that he’s not doing what the board wants, he can start searching for another position.
And if the pastor does improve … crisis averted.
But the board member who finds it easy to fire his pastor doesn’t want to wait twelve to fifteen months to see improvement.
He’s already convinced himself that the pastor will never improve … so the pastor needs to go … now!
What drives him?
His own personal anxiety.
This board member has already made up his mind. He knows what is best for the church. He knows the pastor has to go.
So he can’t wait for the pastor to get his act together. The pastor must leave!
But I can’t imagine having that kind of attitude about a called spiritual leader who loves and preaches the Word of God.
If anybody can change, wouldn’t it be a godly man?
Most pastors are notoriously patient with board members and staffers. Sometimes I knew that a staff member wasn’t working out but I’d speak with them and monitor their performance for months before I’d take any drastic action.
Shouldn’t a board be patient with their pastor as well?
_______________
What’s the value of thinking about the board member who can easily fire a pastor?
First, no pastor should allow such a person on the board in the first place.
For some people, being on a board is a frustrating experience because they believe they already know the direction the church should take.
They don’t want to discuss matters in a collegial fashion. That just allows others to exercise veto power over their ideas.
Over the years, I vetoed the names of many individuals who were entertained as board members.
Even then, I should have exercised that veto more often.
Second, if the pastor detects that such a person is presently on the board, he needs to watch his back … or pray that person off the board.
I have never known a church leader who, once they started attacking their pastor verbally, turned around later on and supported him.
I’m sure it’s happened somewhere. But once a leader goes public with their feelings about their pastor, they rarely change their mind.
Finally, if you sense that such a person is currently on your church board, alert your pastor and monitor that person while they’re on the church campus.
While a church should not turn into a surveillance state, sometimes God’s people can best protect their pastor by watching and listening to potential antagonists.
These people usually give away how they feel about their pastor by where they sit during worship … who they sit with … who they talk to before and after church … where those conversations are held … and how they respond to the pastor when he’s preaching.
The apostle Paul tells the congregation in Rome, “I urge you, brothers, to watch out for those who cause divisions and put obstacles in your way that are contrary to the teaching you have learned. Keep away from them. For such people are not serving our Lord Christ, but their own appetites. By smooth talk and flattery they deceive the minds of naive people” (Romans 16:17-18).
We need far fewer naive people in local churches today.
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Could You Force Out a Pastor?
June 2, 2017 by Jim Meyer
Several years ago, a pastor of a medium-sized church called to tell me that he had been fired.
He told me there was no warning involved, that he was not offered any severance pay, and that he had no idea how to support his family financially.
The pastor said that he wasn’t guilty of any major offense. He thought the church was going well, but evidently some in leadership didn’t think so.
And I wondered, as I always do, “How could the official board of that church treat their pastor that way?”
Or to put it another way, “What kind of person would fire their pastor without any reason and proceed to cut off his finances as well?”
I couldn’t do that. Could you?
Based on my experiences in various churches, let me share five traits of a board member who could easily fire their pastor:
First, the board member has a job where he makes unilateral decisions.
Maybe he owns his own company. Maybe he is an attorney or a doctor with great community influence. Maybe he’s been given carte blanche in his job to hire or fire personnel.
It’s easy for such a person to take off their “spiritual leader” hat at church and replace it with their “corporate decision maker” hat instead.
I’m not saying that every strong, independent leader in the marketplace is like this, but all too many are, and they are often the ones at the forefront of the pastor’s ouster.
But I can’t even imagine having this kind of mindset.
My wife and I run a small business together. If I think we should do something different, I run it by her first. Sometimes she agrees, sometimes she doesn’t.
I won’t proceed without her blessing. I am not the fount of all wisdom!
But a board member who can easily fire a pastor believes that he is the fount of all wisdom … or that he should be calling the shots at church rather than the pastor, the staff, or the congregation.
If such a person is able to force out the pastor, he or she will become the undisputed leader of the church, even if it’s just behind the scenes.
And that’s what they want.
Second, the board member thinks he knows more than the pastor does about the church’s direction.
If the pastor thinks the church should reach young couples, this board member thinks the church should reach young people instead.
If the pastor thinks the church should be more outreach-oriented, this board member thinks the church should focus more on its own members.
If the pastor thinks the church should take some God-ordained risks, this board member thinks the church should play it safe and only do what’s in the budget.
If this board member senses that he has more influence than the pastor, he may very well plot to remove the pastor from office.
But if he senses he doesn’t have the clout, he’ll either hang around and sabotage the pastor’s leadership, or he’ll leave the church and take as many with him as possible.
But I can’t even imagine sabotaging a church’s direction … especially if it’s the result of months of prayer and planning.
If my pastor wasn’t good at the “vision thing,” I would do my best to help him devise a process where many people could have input on the church’s future.
But I would want his voice to be prominent, because the pastor casts vision from the pulpit, and even the most powerful board member can’t do that.
Third, the board member has secret allies on the board, in the staff, or with a powerful faction.
Most board members who fire their pastor are reasonably sure that they have “enough” support from prominent individuals in their church.
They usually have one or two sidekicks on the board. These people are relatively quiet but gain power by supporting their vocal colleague.
They also have their fingers in the church staff, receiving a steady flow of information from the office manager, a youth pastor, the worship leader, or an associate pastor.
Every pastor needs allies, especially when conflict surfaces. I was always strengthened when a board member told me, “Jim, I have your back on this one.”
But I can’t imagine collecting allies so we could push out the pastor together.
It usually takes at least a year of complaining … undermining … resisting … and plotting for a board member to gain sufficient allies to force out their pastor.
Think of all that negative energy! Couldn’t it be better used for instruction or outreach?
But all that matters to such a board member is power.
Fourth, the board member pays scant attention to biblical teaching on conflict resolution.
More than three decades ago, I was discussing a controversial passage in Paul’s epistles with a board member.
This board member … whom I inherited … told me, “Whenever I come upon a passage like that, I just turn the page.”
Maybe it’s no wonder that he later became the worst antagonist I’ve ever had in any church.
This man had an agenda: to turn our California church into the Swedish church from Wisconsin that he loved so much.
If I went along with his agenda, he would support me. If I didn’t, he would oppose me.
I didn’t go along with his agenda. I couldn’t.
Sadly, I could never appeal to him on the basis of Scripture. The Word of God didn’t govern his life … only his feelings and preferences did.
I remember discussing this man and his wife with a prominent Christian leader who visited our church one Sunday. This leader – an expert in spiritual warfare – told me to get this couple out of the church and off the rolls as quickly as possible.
They eventually did leave, but took 25% of the church with them in the process.
But I can’t imagine being a spiritual leader in a church and yet ignoring the written Word of God concerning conflict! I have no idea how the previous pastor let this guy on the board, but when he did, he sowed seeds of destruction that lasted for years.
Finally, the board member desires relief from personal anxiety.
Two years ago, I attended a conference on church conflict with author and prominent church conflict consultant Peter Steinke.
Steinke said that whenever the official board is dissatisfied with their pastor or his performance, they should create a plan and give their pastor twelve to fifteen months to improve.
That sounds fair and reasonable, doesn’t it? If the pastor senses after a few months that he’s not doing what the board wants, he can start searching for another position.
And if the pastor does improve … crisis averted.
But the board member who finds it easy to fire his pastor doesn’t want to wait twelve to fifteen months to see improvement.
He’s already convinced himself that the pastor will never improve … so the pastor needs to go … now!
What drives him?
His own personal anxiety.
This board member has already made up his mind. He knows what is best for the church. He knows the pastor has to go.
So he can’t wait for the pastor to get his act together. The pastor must leave!
But I can’t imagine having that kind of attitude about a called spiritual leader who loves and preaches the Word of God.
If anybody can change, wouldn’t it be a godly man?
Most pastors are notoriously patient with board members and staffers. Sometimes I knew that a staff member wasn’t working out but I’d speak with them and monitor their performance for months before I’d take any drastic action.
Shouldn’t a board be patient with their pastor as well?
_______________
What’s the value of thinking about the board member who can easily fire a pastor?
First, no pastor should allow such a person on the board in the first place.
For some people, being on a board is a frustrating experience because they believe they already know the direction the church should take.
They don’t want to discuss matters in a collegial fashion. That just allows others to exercise veto power over their ideas.
Over the years, I vetoed the names of many individuals who were entertained as board members.
Even then, I should have exercised that veto more often.
Second, if the pastor detects that such a person is presently on the board, he needs to watch his back … or pray that person off the board.
I have never known a church leader who, once they started attacking their pastor verbally, turned around later on and supported him.
I’m sure it’s happened somewhere. But once a leader goes public with their feelings about their pastor, they rarely change their mind.
Finally, if you sense that such a person is currently on your church board, alert your pastor and monitor that person while they’re on the church campus.
While a church should not turn into a surveillance state, sometimes God’s people can best protect their pastor by watching and listening to potential antagonists.
These people usually give away how they feel about their pastor by where they sit during worship … who they sit with … who they talk to before and after church … where those conversations are held … and how they respond to the pastor when he’s preaching.
The apostle Paul tells the congregation in Rome, “I urge you, brothers, to watch out for those who cause divisions and put obstacles in your way that are contrary to the teaching you have learned. Keep away from them. For such people are not serving our Lord Christ, but their own appetites. By smooth talk and flattery they deceive the minds of naive people” (Romans 16:17-18).
We need far fewer naive people in local churches today.
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