Have you ever taken a spiritual gifts inventory to discover which gifts God has given you?
Twenty-some years ago, I took the inventory that came with the Network material created by Willow Creek Church.
My primary gift? Teaching.
My second gift? Prophecy.
When I took the class “Discovering Your Ministry Identity” at Fuller for the Doctor of Ministry degree, my spiritual gifts inventory produced exactly the same results.
While I’ve always tried to use my teaching gift in love, that prophecy gift makes me seem outspoken, stubborn, and almost obnoxious at times.
I understand that when women feel strong emotions, they usually feel them from the top of their head to the tips of their toes.
That’s how I feel when I see wrongdoing in Jesus’ church.
It doesn’t matter if nobody is listening (or reading), or if I don’t use politically correct terms, or if I need to take a swipe at the behavior of Christian leaders on occasion … I have to speak out.
In fact, I’m not being true to either God or my giftedness if I remain silent.
That’s why I care so much about the involuntary termination of innocent pastors. In fact, more of us need to speak up and say, “This is wrong and has got to stop.”
Enter Kent Crockett’s book Pastor Abusers: When Sheep Attack Their Shepherd.
While much of Crockett’s book overlaps with my book Church Coup, I love his fresh approach to the subject.
Let me share a few more quotes from his book:
“The devil is unmistakably the instigator of secret plots. Nowhere in the Bible do we read about God calling for His people to meet secretly and plot the ousting [of] a pastor. Instead, every instance in the New Testament of plots and secret meetings pertains to ungodly religious leaders who attacked God’s Son and His followers.”
While reading through the Psalms in The Message, I came upon Psalm 64 this morning. David writes about his enemies:
They keep lists of the traps
they’re secretly set.
They say to each other,
“No one can catch us,
no one can detect our perfect crime.”
The Detective detects the mystery
in the dark of the cellar heart.
My friend Charles Chandler, executive director of the Ministering to Ministers Foundation, taught me that when leaders or churchgoers plot to force out their pastor, they will insist on strict confidentiality from the pastor when they inform him of their plans … and that the pastor does not have to comply with their wishes. As Crockett states, “Satan loves to plot evil schemes under the dark veil of secrecy against God’s messengers …. It’s just too easy for these thugs to concoct stories or exaggerate incidents to discredit the pastor’s ministry and ruin his reputation.”
This paragraph made me both angry and sorrowful:
“The abusers will often approach your friends, trying to persuade them to come over to their side. They’ll misrepresent the situation, distort the facts, and say, ‘Let us tell you our side of the story.’ If your friend is gullible or has a weak backbone, he or she will cave in to their exploitation, instead of standing up for what’s right. It’s worth repeating – never underestimate the incredible power of a slanderer to alter people’s thinking.”
I believe that slander is the number one weapon in Satan’s arsenal against pastors. When half-truths, innuendos, and exaggerations are piled one on top of another, too many Christians choose to believe the “charges” rather than ask, “How do you know these charges are true?” or ask, “What kind of biblical process has been used to uncover this information?”
And the first thing anyone who hears such charges should do is contact the pastor immediately and ask him whether the charges are true.
In his chapter “The Silent Majority,” Crockett laments churchgoers who passively allow their pastor to take a beating without coming to his defense:
“Your supporters understand these antagonists are determined to run you off, and they prefer to stay out of the line of fire when it happens. When the faction begins persecuting you, the depth of your supporters’ spiritual walk will determine which position they’ll take and which side they’ll choose.”
There are friends from my last ministry who have told me how sorry they are that they did not speak up for me when I was being publicly accused of wrongdoing. I have never blamed them for remaining silent because it’s rare for Christians to publicly support their pastor when he’s under attack. But I do believe them when they say that they will never let this happen again.
Unfortunately, too many believers are fooled by the following tactic. Pastor Mike Johnston stated that he and his wife were friends with a woman for 25 years … and that she pledged loyalty to them … but then:
“I failed to take into account the slander factor, which is the exponential power a phantom allegation proclaimed through an alliance of troublemakers. These particular pastor abusers banded together and fed her misinformation, which she never challenged. Since the accusers kept repeating their lies, it convinced her that they must be telling the truth. Without asking me to respond to their charges, she swallowed the bait, reneged on her promise, and joined their team. After three months of unreturned phone calls, it became painfully evident our lifelong friend wanted nothing more to do with us.”
Guess what? The enemy used the same tactic on Jesus, Stephen, and Paul.
I once had a teacher at Biola named Mr. Ebeling. He was quite a character, but he used to utter the same phrase over and over:
“If Christians would just read their Bibles!”
The enemy’s strategy against pastors is clearly delineated in Scripture … but when he springs his trap, many people take his side and drive out their pastor.
Let’s put a stop to this evil once and for all!
Are you with me?
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How Can These People be Christians?
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In his well-written, insightful, and practical book Pastor Abusers: When Sheep Attack Their Shepherd, my friend Kent Crockett relates many true stories about pastor abuse. Here’s a sampling of these stories told by actual pastors:
“Some unyielding deacons and angry members didn’t like my ideas of reaching out to people who don’t know Christ, so they forced my resignation. In my final business meeting, I told the congregation, ‘I believe the Lord is leading me to step down and resign as pastor, effective immediately.’ As soon as I said that, about fifteen people who had opposed me stood up, started applauding, and shouted, ‘Hallelujah! Praise God!’ In the two years I had been their pastor, they had never clapped in church or shouted praise to God. In fact, they had always opposed displays of emotion in the worship service. I hadn’t even seen them smile until I resigned and then they all had big grins on their faces.”
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“The deacon board chairman came to see me one evening. He never called to set up an appointment, but just showed up unannounced clutching his gripe list. The deacon asserted that he represented a ‘growing’ number of disgruntled people who were angry with me, and had appointed him as the liaison of church solidarity.
With seeming delight, he claimed that other members were ‘flooding’ him with concerns about me, although he wouldn’t disclose names because he wanted to ‘protect their identities.’ I later proved his list was contrived and his alleged ‘growing’ number was actually a small group the deacon had recruited.
Casting gentleness to the wind, the deacon tore into me with outlandish accusations. When I asked what specifically I had done wrong, the deacon sidestepped the issue. He wasn’t interested in repairing and restoring fellowship, so I refrained from further discussion. Since I wouldn’t bow to his intimidation, the deacon started a false rumor about me. Because of the misery I suffered at the hands of this cruel deacon, I resigned as pastor.”
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“That small group got against me. They started lying. They said I was a gambler. And then they attacked my wife. When they can’t get anything on the minister, they go after his wife or his children. Only by suspending the bylaws were they able to fire me.”
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“In one year, 27 ministers in my district were forced to resign their pastorates, without charges of wrongdoing, unethical behavior, or immorality. Many because they were causing growth. Most cases it was the power bloc that ran the church that had them removed. Many have lost their pastorates, many their reputations and many have lost their enthusiasm about staying in the ministry.”
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“As I reflect on 35 years of ministry, I realize that many of my former colleagues are no longer pastors. Somewhere along the line, they left their ‘calling’ and undertook a different path for their lives. Reflecting on my friends who used to be pastors, I realize that they are now a majority. Those, like me, who have stayed in ministry are actually the minority. The attrition rate has been high and the cost to souls is astronomical.
The majority of my acquaintances encountered such turmoil and situational conflict (from church members) that they felt they could not continue to pastor. Congregations overwhelmed my pastor friends with unrealistic expectations, negative criticism and misplaced anger. Some congregations even assumed the perfect pastor was ‘out there,’ so their fallible pastor was terminated.”
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Let me make four brief observations about these stories:
First, these stories are not an anomaly – they are all too typical. While the names of the pastors, church leaders, and congregations are all different, the patterns of pastoral abuse remain the same across the board.
I saw a quote recently from a denominational executive. He said that when a pastor started telling him his termination story, the denominational leader could accurately predict the entire aftermath.
Since there are patterns to pastoral abuse, the Christian community must band together and stop this evil.
Second, the inability of Christians to get along – especially with their pastor – negates the gospel of reconciliation.
Jesus told His disciples the night before His crucifixion, “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another” (John 13:34-35).
Jesus didn’t say, “Love the people in your group only.” He didn’t say, “Love everyone in your church but your pastor and his family.” Three times in these two verses, He commands His followers to “love one another” … and that includes the pastor and his family.
When believers visibly love each other, Jesus says, then “all men” will notice that “you are my disciples.”
But when believers avoid each other and hate each other, the world concludes, “The Christian faith doesn’t work.”
As 1 John 4:20 states, “If anyone says, ‘I love God,’ yet hates his brother, he is a liar. For anyone who does not love his brother, whom he has seen, cannot love God, whom he has not seen.”
Third, the pastor’s enemies almost always slander him to force his resignation.
Forgive me for sounding like a broken record, but how can professing Christians blatantly lie about their spiritual leader?
Did Jesus ever lie about a spiritual leader?
Did Paul?
Did Peter … or John … or James … or Luke?
Who in the New Testament has a reputation for lying?
Satan.
Then how can those who claim to follow Jesus … who is the Truth and always spoke the truth … join hands with the evil one?
How strong is your case against a pastor if you have to use exaggeration and innuendo and false statements to get rid of Him? Isn’t that the same tactic that was used on Jesus?
I wish churches had trials and the liars could be exposed for everyone to see.
Why aren’t we exposing the liars?
Instead, after the pastor leaves, they end up on the church board.
Here’s what I read yesterday during my quiet time:
“Everyone who does evil hates the light, and will not come into the light for fear that his evil deeds will be exposed. But whoever lives by the truth comes into the light, so that it may be seen plainly that what he has done has been done through God” (John 3:20-21).
Finally, believers need to give control of their church back to Jesus Christ.
Doesn’t Colossians 1:18 say that Jesus “is the head of the body, the church” and that “in everything he might have the supremacy?”
We don’t read that any pastor is “the head of the church,” nor the church board, nor the charter members, nor a particular faction.
Instead, we read that Jesus is the head of the body.
Maybe churches should have an annual service where the leaders and congregation acknowledge that “Jesus is the head of this church” and not any specific individual or group.
Let’s be honest: too many people are fighting for control of a church when it isn’t theirs to begin with.
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I don’t mean to sound cynical, but after reading the above stories … and many more like them, not only in Kent’s books, but in other books on church conflict … I have one unanswered question:
How can people who use slander and hatred to destroy their pastor really be Christians?
What do you think?
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