Of making many books there is no end … Ecclesiastes 12:13
Several years ago, a few days after leaving my last pastoral ministry, I spoke on the phone with a Christian attorney who was assisting me with some documentation.
During our conversation, I mentioned to him that I planned to write a book about the events surrounding my departure from the church.
He offered one short phrase in counsel: “Just make sure you tell the truth.”
With my recently-published book Church Coup, I did my best to tell the truth from my perspective.
Let me ask and answer three questions about the writing of the book:
1. How did people react when you told them you were writing a book?
I received so many different reactions:
*Skepticism. Most of us have a hard time believing that anyone we know would become a published author, so some people said, “That’s nice” or “Send me a copy when you’re done” – but they weren’t sure I’d ever finish.
However, because anyone can self-publish nowadays, that book can be published … you just have to pay for the privilege.
*Discouragement. One Christian leader – whom I greatly admire – told me candidly that if I wrote a book on the forced termination of pastors, it wouldn’t sell.
To verify that, a Christian literary agent told me that a major Christian publisher turned down an offer by a bestselling Christian author to write a similar book years ago. He also told me my book was too long. (So I cut it from 450 pages to 290.)
*Competitiveness. I told one Christian leader that I was writing a book … and he proceeded to tell me about a book he had written that sells 5,000 copies every year.
I liked the attitude of another leader better. When I told him about my book, he told me about a book he had written about an issue in his family … and offered to give me one from the trunk of his car.
*Encouragement. One Sunday morning at Christ’s Church of the Valley in Peoria, Arizona, my wife and I stopped after the service to chat with Dr. Mark Moore, who had just become the church’s teaching pastor. When I told Dr. Moore about the book, he asked me to send him a copy when it was finished. I felt inspired after talking with him.
But the greatest encouragement I’ve received came ten years ago from Dr. Archibald Hart from Fuller Seminary – one of my very few Christian heroes. (I keep a framed copy of the comments he made on the post-seminar paper I submitted for his class.) When I wrote in that paper that I felt compelled by God to write, he jotted down, “I’ll be praying that God will not release you from these commitments!”
What’s interesting to me is that many people from my previous church knew that I was writing a book – I announced it repeatedly for months and even released a few excerpts on this blog – but no one ever asked me not to write anything.
2. Why did you write on the forced termination of pastors?
*Because I felt compelled by God to write it. Paul spent three years in the Arabian desert (Galatians 1:17-18). I’m not sure what he did there or how he lived, but God used that time to prepare Paul for greater ministry.
In the same way, Church Coup was written almost exclusively in several desert locations. The Lord gave me time to pray, reflect, and work in relative solitude. I could not have written any book if I was still pastoring.
*Because I wanted to bring meaning to my father’s death. There is a sense in which a particular church killed my father, who resigned his position as pastor in June 1965. He died on February 9, 1967 – more than 46 years ago – after several months of suffering from pancreatic cancer. He went through such a horrendous conflict in that church for two years that I believe the stress compromised his immune system.
My wife never met her father-in-law. My kids never met their grandfather. My sister barely remembers her own dad. But I will never forget him … and I want what happened to him to help others, which is why Chapter 12 begins with his story.
*Because I’ve cared deeply about the forced termination of pastors for decades. 35 years ago, I served as youth pastor in a church in SoCal that voted their pastor out of office. Although I was not integrally involved in the conflict, I was lobbied by both sides, and I watched in disbelief as Christians acted like the world they were supposedly trying to convert.
Since then, I’ve collected books on the topic, spent countless hours discussing the problem with pastoral colleagues (and anyone who would listen), and thought long and hard about how pastor-board/congregation impasses should be handled. In fact, 25 years ago, a Christian attorney and I began writing an article on how these situations could be addressed in an optimal way. While I still have the article, we never published it.
*Because I did my doctoral work on church antagonism. I had already read scores of books and articles for my dissertation, so why not build on what I had already done?
*Because I wanted to give meaning to a conflict I experienced firsthand. With my background and passion for the issue of forced termination, how could I not write about it when I went through the experience myself? Through the years, God has uniquely prepared me to write about this single issue. If I died today, at least I’ve left behind something that might help Christian leaders and churches in the future.
I’ve asked myself, “What have I learned by going through this crisis? How can I help other pastors, governing leaders, and congregations? How can we handle these tragedies in a more biblical manner?”
3. What kind of reactions do you hope the book inspires?
Some people have already read the book and shared with me their feelings of anger, sadness, empathy, and horror. I dare not try and program people’s responses, but my prayer is that readers might sense:
*Humility. During a conflict, it’s okay to disagree with others. It’s okay to hold firmly to a position. But too many people in a conflict quickly demonize those who disagree with them … and that attitude leads to destruction.
Humility means there’s a possibility that I’m wrong … or that I may have exaggerated wrongdoing in others … or that I may have overreacted to protect my image or my feelings.
And more than anything, humility may mean that I need to break from the party line and admit, “I crossed some spiritual and moral lines during this conflict. Please forgive me.”
I pray that all of us – including me – can say to the Lord, “Search me, O God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the everlasting way” (Psalm 139:23-24).
*Change. In the book, I try and challenge some of the conventional wisdom about conflicts in churches when it doesn’t square with Scripture.
The old paradigm said that if a few people charged a pastor with wrongdoing – especially members of the church board – then the pastor should automatically resign to keep the church united.
But then I read that Jesus was accused of wrongdoing all the time, but He didn’t resign as Messiah. And Paul was incessantly criticized by the church in Corinth, but he kept on serving faithfully.
In fact, while reading the Bible, I discovered that Moses, Jesus and Paul constantly responded to their critics and stayed in their positions rather than walking away from God’s call.
Of course, there is a time when a pastor should leave a church – and it’s not always when the pastor wants to go. But if and when that ever happens, it must be handled in a Christian manner – with grace, truth, humility – and especially redemption.
And when people attempt to push out their pastor, they may not be doing the work of God.
*Wisdom. I subtitled the book A Cautionary Tale so that the reader can learn from both the wise and foolish decisions that were made during the conflict. And I quoted multiple times from the best congregational conflict experts possible. Since there’s little in print on the issue of forced termination, I wanted to make a small contribution to the literature on the subject.
I’ve preached hundreds of sermons, many of them on cassettes that I’ve stuffed into boxes in my garage. Nobody has ever asked to listen to even one of them.
But maybe through this book, the church of Jesus Christ can make some small headway in combatting this plague of forced termination in our churches.
Let us therefore make every effort to do what leads to peace and to mutual edification. Romans 14:19
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